Love, Personal, Thoughts

Roots

I’ve been married 20 years in May 2019 to my husband and all though it hasn’t always been easy, there’s been ups and downs along the way I wouldn’t change a thing. There’s an age difference of 17 years between us and I can honestly say that it’s never bothered me, not 20 years ago nor now, I think we somehow meet in the middle, I’m an old soul and he’s young at heart.

In our relationship we spend a lot of time together, we obviously live with each other & work together in the small business that we set up 4 years ago; For some couples spending all this time together wouldn’t work but I think we both thrive off it, we can bounce ideas off of each other, we laugh together, shout at each other, love each other, understand each other and it works.

We get each other and although we may not always agree on everything, it doesn’t cause division, we’re able to work through things and remain the best of friends, because that is what he is, not just my husband, he’s my best friend.

It’s this friendship and love that is at the core of relationship, it’s grown from the early lust-filled days to something whole, something special that I wouldn’t want to share with anyone else.

Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being “in love” which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.”
Louis de Bernières, Captain Corelli’s Mandolin

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